Mandira Bedi lost her husband Raj Kaushal earlier this week. She was also the one to perform the last rites.
It has been hardly two days since Mandira Bedi lost her husband and the trolls are already shaming and trolling her. For what? performing her husband’s last rites. Yes read that again!
Mandira Bedi’s husband and director-producer Raj Kaushal passed away on Wednesday in Mumbai after suffering a cardiac arrest.
The actor and mother of two, took up the responsibility of performing her husband’s last rites by breaking patriarchal stereotypes. Soon, the videos and pictures started circulating online and the things that caught the trolls’ attention were how can a woman perform the last rites and how can she have the audacity to wear a pair of jeans and t-shirt instead of a white saree while mourning the death of her husband? ( yeh aaj kal ke ladkiyan bhi na!)
While most people commented on the media’s insensitivity in filmimg a person’s private moments and paid their condolences, a section of society decided this was the right moment to troll Mandira for not behaving like an “adarsh Bhartiya naari”.
Why is it that women have to go through such horrid shaming even while grieving the loss of a loved one?
In the garb of ‘dharam’ and ‘sanskaar’ have we gone too far? For the unversed when someone dies in the family, it is usually the men who perform the last rites, but restricting a person from carrying out the last rites of a deceased relative simply because of gender is a regressive, patriarchal custom that we need to do well away with.
Bollywood Singer Sona Mohapatra has defended actor Mandira Bedi against trolls. The ‘Bahara’ Singer mentioned in a tweet on Friday how Mandira Bedi was being pulled down online for performing the rituals and for her choice of clothes. “That some people are still commenting on Mandira Bedi’s dress code or choice to carry out her husband Raj Kushal’s last rites shouldn’t surprise us. Stupidity is more abundant than any other element in our world after all,” she wrote.
Many Other also supported Sona’s point of view. “For a society it’s can’t get more shameful if we were to not empathize and support @mandybedi but to ridicule her for her dress choices that too at her husband’s funeral.. we have a long way to go Broken heartFolded hands #Shameful,” wrote a follower. “Well said. That’s no one’s business. People should stand by her during this time and admire her for the courage,” read another comment.
“It is very hard to live by yourself without a partner in this journey. Whatever her choices may be ,I hope she gets the strength to go through this journey. River of life on a boat with a fellow traveler is easier to cross than crossing alone.” wrote another while supporting her.
Raj Kaushal died of a heart attack at 49 on Wednesday. His laast rites were held at Shivaji Park crematorium, Dadar. Ronit Roy, Sameer Soni, Ashish Chowdhry, and Dino Morea, Arshad Warsi, Neha Dhupia, Onir, Vicky Kaushal and Hansal Mehta paid their tribute to Raj.